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Mouth Too Nasty.: Your faves hate you, ladies.

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As we all know, this light skin vs. dark skin thing has been going on ever since the beginning of time. I didn’t know some of our faves were weighing in on it too. These are only a few black celebrities that feel the same way these men feel. The people that make us laugh, we listen to…

Mouth Too Nasty.: Your faves hate you, ladies.

Black Men in the Entertainment Industry who have dissed Black Women that Black Women still support!!!(((WARNING: Laced with madness, the stupid, profanity, and hella colorism)))

http://bougieblackgirl.com/2012/04/11/black-men-in-the-entertainment-industry-who-have-dissed-black-women-that-black-women-still-supportwarning-laced-with-madness-the-stupid-profanity-and-hella-colorism/

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Random thoughts of madness, foolishness, and debauchery. I live for sin!

Black Men in the Entertainment Industry who have dissed Black Women that Black Women still support!!!(((WARNING: Laced with madness, the stupid, profanity, and hella colorism)))

“When someone shows you who they are, believe them”
Maya Angelou

I am about to get real and raw. WAKE UP SIS!! These people hate you. They hate the very essence of you. They hate you, their sisters, their mothers, and their mother’s mother. Heck they hate the skin they live in and they are telling you.

Kevin Hart
#handsdown Light-skinned women usually have better credit than a dark-skinned woman…Broke as dark hoes…Lol

Dark skinned women take a punch @ da face better than light-skinned women…u soft as yellow b–ches…lol

Lil Wayne
Beautiful black woman, I bet that b*tch look better red.” “…my daughter is the first and last dark skin child I’m having. The rest of my baby moms [are] light skinned chicks. I even got an Asian baby moms to make sure I have a daughter with good hair. Too bad we had a son.

Young Berg
I’m kinda racist…I don’t like dark butts…You know how some women prefer light skin men or dark skin men.It’s rare that I do dark butts – that’s what I call dark skinned women…I [don’t date women] darker than me.

I love the pool test. If you can jump in the pool exactly like you are and you don’t come out looking better than you looked before going in the pool – then that’s not a good look. Any woman that uses brown gel to set down her baby hair is not poppin.

Pilow the Don
…black women need to get their shit together, period, point black. And if you’re in denial of that, you are part of the problem.

Kanye West
Rolling with some light-skin chicks and some Kelly Rowlands.

If it wasn’t for race mixing there’d be no video girls. Me and most of our friends like mutts a lot. Yeah, in the hood they call ‘em mutts

Neyo
All the prettiest kids are light skinned anyway.

Tyrese (on not having Black women in his video)
I welcomed all women and went with the best…. I don’t do favors.

Brian White
You can’t call it a stereotype if it’s the majority. The most prevalent image in “urban society” right now is women like Nene [Leaks]. If there’s a fight that breaks out on “Love & Hip Hop” those people are one every blog, the cover of every magazine the next week. It’s not Taraji or Gabrielle, it’s whoever just got into a fist fight. Tyler’s not stereotyping, he’s holding up a mirror and people are mad at him because people don’t want to look at that image in that way.[sic]” read more of the madness here

WAKE UP!!

YES WAKE UP!!

These people hate you but they will gladly take your money. Heck some of them even said so.  A chicken wouldn’t support KFC so why in the world would you support a man that hates you. I don’t get it. Is it Stockholm or battered woman’s syndrome. Someone and I mean somebody explain this madness to me. How many times do these Black Women abusers/haters have to trash you before you get it? They aren’t coming home, they are not changing, and no they don’t love you. Love is not pain. Love is kind. Love is sweet and gentle.  Sister you are being verbally abused and assaulted and the thing is that you know it. You have become complicit in your own abuse. And guess what? The world sees it and shakes their collective heads because you continue to line your abusers pockets.

I implore you. No I beg you to  walk away. Turn off the television. Don’t buy that CD. Go to another movie. Build your wealth, health, and self esteem. Heck even pray on it if works for you. Just let these people know you will not stand for it. I don’t care if they apologized. HELLO it’s complete and utter bullocks! They apologized because YOU line their pockets! Think of it like this. If a random white actor or singer said the same thing about Black women wouldn’t you be signing petitions and marching to get his ass fired. So why are these racist Black men any different?
I will close with  more infinite wisdom from that great thespian Slim Thug.

Slim Thug
It’s hard to trust a Black woman sometimes because a lot of Black women’s mind frame is that the man gotta do everything for her – he gotta pay for this, he gotta pay for that, and if it ain’t about money then a lot of them ain’t fucking with him. If that’s what you’re here for then I don’t want to be with you,” said Slim.

Most single Black women feel like they don’t want to settle for less. Their standards are too high right now. They have to understand that successful Black men are kind of extinct. We’re important. It’s hard to find us so Black women have to bow down and let it be known that they gotta start working hard; they gotta start cooking and being down for they man more. They can’t just be running around with their head up in the air and passing all of us.

I have a brother that dates a White woman and he always be fucking with me about it saying, ‘Y’all gotta go through all that shit [but] my White woman is fine. She don’t give me no problems, she do whatever I say and y’all gotta do all that arguing and fighting and worry about all this other shit.’

My girl is Black and White. I guess the half White in her is where she still cooks and do all the s**t that I say, so we make it. She just takes care of me and I like that. She don’t be begging and I don’t gotta buy her all this crazy ass shit. And she’s a smart girl too. She graduated from Columbia [University] and I like that about her so it’s cool. I’ve dated girls that will buy a $3,000 bag and don’t know how to pay it off on their credit cards. They walk around in these Louis Vuittons and red bottoms but they’re riding around in raggedy cars, so it’s just getting your priorities right.

White women treat they man like a king and Black women feel like they ain’t gotta do that shit. Black women need to stand by their man more. Don’t always put the pressure of if I’m fucking with you, you gotta buy me this and that. Black men are the ones that motherfuckers need [but] I think a lot of them need to step it up too. A Black man who gets a little bread will go make it rain in the club and be broke the next day or instead of im going to invest in a business he gonna go buy new jewelry or a new car and still live in the hood. Black peoples’ mentality is real fucked up in general [and] it’s affecting everything.

“Black women need to be more genuine and be more 50/50 [but] It should be a fair exchange in a relationship period or eventually somebody is gonna feel like they’re getting fucked over whether it’s the woman or the man. I think that will help Black relationships out a lot.

154 Comments on “Black Men in the Entertainment Industry who have dissed Black Women that Black Women still support!!!(((WARNING: Laced with madness, the stupid, profanity, and hella colorism)))

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  2. Moxie

    April 12, 2012

    Bougie you better preach girl because everything that you said is the painful truth. Im actually going to blog and address the painful truth about why black women are justified in their anger. We need to stop financially supporting those who degrade is a a group. These sell out coins are famous because black womb supported them. My hard earned money will not line the pockets of these haters. Good job on the post and I love your blog!!!

    • Bougie Black Girl

      April 12, 2012

      Yes, yes yes!! We need to demand respect!

      • CREE-EIGHT

        April 20, 2012

        I absolutely salute you!

      • Kushite Prince

        April 21, 2012

        Thanks for this eye opening article. It’s very depressing to see such self-hatred among these brothers. But the truth must be exposed. The negrophobia must STOP in our community. Keep up the great work sis.

      • Rose

        April 30, 2012

        God will hear. We have to trust in Jesus and be faithful he did not cause this break down as I am sure he is not happy. It is so sad how black women (girls) are being disrepected by the very men who come from their womb. If it were not for their mothers most of these men would not be here today because many fathers are and were away. I do not support and never supported foolishness. Thanks for your blog young lady. Btw I love your greenish dress and your hair :)

      • Bougie Black Girl

        April 30, 2012

        Thank you

    • Noon Yi

      April 14, 2012

      These men have a right as grown A$$ men to decide whom they perfer to date; this is the reason MANY black women are not married, because ya’ll seem to try o tell black men how to think, want to change his decion, and give the impression you can tell US what we are supposed to want and like. The slave masters raped out black women for a long long time and black men sat back and watched, psychologically how can you blame black men for being inconsciously turned on by white women? Men forget that thier deep seated hate for the white man inturns make them want their women lighter skin. Note: I have friends who are immigrants of Morroco and Algeria and all they want is dumb pale white women for the benefit og their green card- they say black and latino women are not passive and they are in more ways then other deemed “hardened”.So lets put things in perspective- even if you were the right color you still have to work on that image of being “Hardened “by not being so judgemental and stop thinkn you know every freakin thing

      • Ilikestrawberries

        April 15, 2012

        Booooooooooooo!

      • r u serious

        April 15, 2012

        No one is saying they do not have the right to prefer who they want to date. But what is being said is that black women need to stop supporting these type of black men by buying their cd’s, etc and spend our money elsewhere. Some us have become conditioned to think because there is a black face on the box we are obligated to buy. The author is just telling black women to stop supporting these men who obviously don’t need our support.

      • nicoleh73

        April 17, 2012

        Black men can date whomever they want. But they don’t have to throw Black women under the bus in the process. These men have black women in their families. No other race of men does this. You do not have to put your own down to justify your love for non-black and light-skinned black women. I would say the same thing to Black women who shit on black men, while praising white men. Love who you love and leave us the hell out of it.

      • Ydenise Mcclay

        April 23, 2012

        Black women are second only to white men in both earning and education… it is our loyalty to worthless black males that have us hear even talking about you. Society looks at you as the thing that you present – it is only, and sadly, only black women who even support you…. please.

      • WAKE UP!!!!

        April 29, 2012

        Black men can screw and marry WHOMEVER THEY WANT. THAT was not the point of this article. The point was and is, that black women are STUPID, if we continue to support those who dont support us. THAT was the point. All that mess spewed by Noon Yi was nothing but some strawman tactics to divert from the message of this post.

        BLACK WOMEN, WAKE UP!!

        Do not let these fools try to guilt, shame or confuse you into believing that this is your fault, or that you owe them your allegience. YOU DO NOT. They love they white/non-black women so much, let them chics SPEND MONEY SUPPORTING their carreers as actors, entertainers, atheletes and such. How much respect do we think we will garner, supportiing those who OPENLY deny, degrade and dismiss us?

        WAKE UP and keep your money and your support, in to YOURSELF!!

      • One Lucy Woman

        April 29, 2012

        You are so ignorant. Your grammar is on the level of a fourth grader. Spell check.
        Date whoever you please. I often wonder about black men who speak so poorly of bw…WHAT DO YOU THINK OF YOUR MOTHER, GRANDMOTHER, SISTERS, AUNTS, FEMALE COUSINS? I would not be surprised if you hated them also.
        How many times did your Mother had to bail you out of some jam?
        You could never pay your Mother back.
        Is this the reason why most other races of MEN look down on you?

        On the other hand, when you see a hot, young and intelligent black woman with her other race man keep walking and do not say one flipping word in their direction.

        Personally, I date interracially and I have been doing this for years. When I flirt, I only flirt with non-bm. You see what is good you is good for me. And, the thing is most of these other race men are treat me well. They do not cry like most bm about going out and buying a woman a nice present…because they know this is what men do. Men support their women. Too many bm want the woman to support them in every facet.
        Good luck to any other culture of women who can deal with you men.

        I am very happy to say, “I do not date bm.” I am happier without you in my personal life.

        Times are changing for bw as well. It is past time bw remove their ball and chain (black men) from their ankles. Awwww, that felt so good. FREEDOM!

      • Kay Mcleod

        April 30, 2012

        @noon yi That one make no sense. You are stating two opposing ideas. Black men say by..yeah i think that is right. In case you missed it, these dark hoodrats denigraded dark skin. MIssed that right?

      • BRENDALEE

        June 18, 2012

        WHEN YOU BECOME A BLACK BEAUTIFUL DARK OR FAIRSKINED WOMEN THEN TALK ,BUT YOUR NOT SO SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!!!!

      • JustMe9293

        July 6, 2012

        Exactly, white or black who are you to tell someone who to love or to date. Last I checked this was as free country and we are allowed to pick and choose who we want to love or be with. Get over yourself you are not God. If we all stopped judging and mind our own business, the world may be a better place. Grow up there are other pressing matters in the world than who an entertainer wants to date or sleep with. It doesn’t matter for a normal person like us. They are normal people also just put into the light for our entertainment. BUT THEY ARE STILL PEOPLE LIKE YOU AND ME. Find something else to be upset and talk about.

      • Amanueal

        July 7, 2012

        Man shut your sorry ass up. What would your mother think of you.

    • CREE-EIGHT

      April 20, 2012

      I salute you. Absolutely.

  3. Moxie

    April 12, 2012

    Amen amen amen! Tell the truth and shame he devil. I’m actually going to address this same issue on my blog because this insanity needs to stop. Black women are justified in our anger because we are the only group of women that have to deal with their own males disrespecting us in public. These sell out coons wouldn’t be famous if it wasn’t for black women. Personally I will not use my hard earned dollars to line the pockets of people who hate me. Good job on the post and I love the blog. Keep up the good work!

    • Sassy Bizzness

      April 12, 2012

      Thanks for posting this. Slim Thug HAS REAL ISSUES AS DO THE OTHERS. But I read Brian White’s comments in context. And he had an entire paragraph before stating that it’s wrong that Gabrielle Tarji and other sisters are not the ones portrayed on blogs just the negative chicks like ne ne. Here’s the link to the article http://hellobeautiful.com/2504449/does-brian-white-hate-black-women-or-is-he-spot-on-exclusive/ If you’d like some content that’s not gossip driven like the blogs supporting this garbage (not this one) Check out mine at http://www.alldatsassybizzness.com Thanks

      • Top5DOA

        April 13, 2012

        Yeah of all the comments, I found Brian’s the least offensive. I didn’t get much slander from his point.

      • Sassy Bizzness

        April 13, 2012

        I think he was trying to call it out in his way. Just got lost in translation.

      • Asantewaaspeaks

        April 13, 2012

        Thanks so much for putting out the full context of the interview. I was not at all upset by Brian White’s statement. I think he was challenging black women. If we do not like an image – then don’t support it. We should not complain about the world thinking that we are loud and ignorant if we are watching Basketball Wives all the time and financially supporting the trashiest of media.

      • Bougie Black Girl

        April 13, 2012

        I disagree. “We” don’t all watch this. I have never watched an episode a day in my life. I wouldn’t recognize these people if you slapped me with an ironing board. He generalized over 17 million people based on Nene Leeks. He claimed her image represented me. Um no. We Black women are not monolithic. It may represent the people he knows but not anyone that I know.

      • queensafira

        April 13, 2012

      • queensafira

        April 13, 2012

        Brian White deserves to be on this list.
        http://theybf.com/2010/08/31/wedding-fab-actor-brian-white-ties-the-knot-pops-off-on-people-talking-about-his-non-blac

        I no longer support him or any of these other guys on this list.

      • Bougie Black Girl

        April 13, 2012

        Thank you. I should have posted that but I thought what he said there was enough.

      • Cheri

        April 16, 2012

        I’m sorry but I’m still not agreement that Brian White should be on this list. His comments made on the MadameNoire site are not in context. I see Bougie that you’re saying he’s making generalizations about us “all” watching rachet reality tv but what I understood is that “obviously” these shows are being supported by the masses otherwise they would no longer be on television. If we want better images of us on television we need to demand it. So just like we choose not to financially support “Think Like a Man” (movie or book), “Red Tails”, etc we also need to stop tuning into “Basketball (non) Wives”, “Housewives” and all the other rachet reality shows that reflect bad women in a bad light. These behavior of the women on those shows play into exactly what Slim Thug said.

        And the other article listed about Brian White marrying a non-black woman….is this to support that he should be on the list because he found love with a non-black woman or the fact that he defending his right to do so? I’m not on twitter so I don’t know who is saying what when it says “SharonMonroe @actorbrianwhite” so excuse my ignorance. But is he the person actually making the statements or his people attempting to come to his defense because he is receiving flack for marrying a woman who isn’t black?

        If anyone had anything disparaging to say about his choice of a marriage mate they were out of line as it is HIS CHOICE. I certainly hope that’s not the reason he is being added to this list.

      • Bougie Black Girl

        April 16, 2012

        I don’t care who is married to but I don’t, have not nor will ever, ever watch those housewives or basketball shows. He generalized every single Black woman.

      • Bougie Black Girl

        April 16, 2012

        Who he is*

      • Cheri

        April 16, 2012

        Correction: “reflect black women in a bad light”.

        What I believe Brian White was saying is if we want the media/television/movies to reflect a better or more positive image (the true image of most black women) we need to demand that by not supporting Nene Leaks and the like.

      • queensafira

        April 16, 2012

        Basically he was saying that black women are jeolouse* because he married a white women. And then allowed his friend to make gross generalizations about black women on his twitter page. What he did was just as bad as any other guys on this list.

      • tiredofthebillshit!

        April 17, 2012

        I read between the lines of Brian Whites’ comment and to me he meant that Taraji and those women he mentioned are loud and ghetto, That why they are not so talked about like those bousei ass bitches.

      • tiredofthebillshit!

        April 17, 2012

        I meant NOT being loud and ghetto

      • Bougie Black Girl

        April 17, 2012

        I didn’t know 17 million Black women were jealous of his wife. Who knew? I guess his fellow costars are different because he knows them. Hello that is akin to a bigot saying “all Blacks are…. (so and so).” But the Black people I know are different. Smh.

      • Sassy Bizzness

        April 17, 2012

        Queen I have to admit I was wrong in this instance. I went back and read the full interviews instead of the bits and I agree with you. I see part of what he was saying but actions also speak louder than words.

      • Asantewaaspeaks

        April 17, 2012

        Yes, I 100% understand that we don’t ALL watch basketball wives, Nene Leeks, and other trash. I personally have never watched any of those shows either. When someone uses the collective “we” it does not necessarily mean every single member of the group. The fact remains, if the vast majority of us do not like those images then the vast majority of us should not support those images. I have not looked at the demographics of the Nielsen ratings for these shows. But it is quite possible that significant numbers of African-American women support them. That seems to dishearten Brian White.

  4. Jellyka

    April 12, 2012

    Oh man, I wonder how sad their childhood must have been. They clearly hate their parents and family. They hate themselves. Do they regret their upbringing? Hm. I know it’s hard being a person of colour but take that out on yourself. I’m glad my attraction to people is not based on looks or status because this is pathetic.
    And the oppression continues …

  5. Sassy Bizzness

    April 12, 2012

    Reblogged this on All-Dat-SassyBizzness and commented:
    If we want to talk about racism, let’s point out some examples from within. This self-hate is going to continue until the made-up concept of race is abolished in this country. sign petition to end racial classification at https://www.change.org/petitions/end-racial-classifications-profiling-in-the-us

    • Brenande Mossita

      April 13, 2012

      Our worst enemies are ourselves,why when I was in school me and a white man had to fight for the honor and respect of black women from two black men who said that black women are too dark,too commanding and have their noses in the air.I had to call them n!ggertrash and a white guy who out of no where attacked there stupidity.I have heard too many black men disrespect black women like it is a normal pastime and more and more sometimes its me who’s outnumbered.I don’t hang with black men who disrespect black women or any women.Like Kola Boof said if the KKK was there to hang them she would help because that’s how destructive they are to the black community.

      • Sassy Bizzness

        April 13, 2012

        Brenande, You are absolutely correct. Thank you for being one of our men who honor, love, and protect us. I’m sure it started at home with the way you were raised. I would bet you never saw your father disrespect women of color either.

  6. Bilal Sankofa

    April 13, 2012

    ABSOLUTELY OUTSTANDING BLOG POST…. Anyone & I mean ANYONE who can find 1 inkling of *Un-TRUTH* in what has been Blogged here is straight up BRAIN DEAD…. You cannot listen to ANY of these modern day coons & LOVE YOURSELF, Mother, Aunt, Sister, Neice, Daughter, etc.. These COONS Negros are signed & COONtracted to Perpetuate black self hate, and in particular BLACK FEMALE HATE.. These Coons Hate Black Women, and the cold part is this is only the tip of the iceberg. The overwhelming majority of ALL black celebrities, athletes, actors, politicians, professionals, singers, rappers, dancers etc.. PREFER women who look NOTHING like the wombs that bore them……WAKE YOUR ASSES UP & quit supporting folx that HATE YOU! Excellent Post Queen , Im looking forward to what comes next from your pen.. The RIGHTEOUS WRITE IN BLOOD!~Bilal Sankofa @Blakoben

  7. nicoleh73

    April 13, 2012

    It really is time for all of us as black women to wake the hell up! How can you respect or love men who don’t show any love, support or respect for women who look like their own mothers, sisters, and daughters. These men are really sick individuals. I feel sorry for their children. I also don’t understand the women who actually get in the bed with these men. I could never be with a man who talked shit about his own people.

  8. Sisterlocgirl

    April 13, 2012

    Ladies, there is no need for petitions, rallies, marches, etc. The solution is simple, obvious
    and effective. Close your pocketbooks, wallets, debit cards & whatever other financial support
    to these entities, because they certainly aren’t human. My money does NOT finance individuals who CLEARLY & REPEATEDLY INSULT ME. End of discussion. The quote at the top says it all. And if that isn’t clear enough remember what Zora Neal Hurston said ” All skinfolk ain’t kinfolk “

    • Sassy Bizzness

      April 15, 2012

      After seeing the additional link on white, it places a question mark all over his statement! Siserlical I agree our money can not support these idiots. But we also have to educate the younger people coming up so that the self hate is not perpetuated to the next generation.

  9. Asantewaaspeaks

    April 13, 2012

    Thank you thank you thank you thank you for this. I just would like to interject a little empathy into this conversation. These men here really hate themselves. No, they need to be held accountable for their words and actions. But we really also have to recognize the self-loathing that it represents. These men are not comfortable with their own reflections and so they find the need to take out their frustrations with the female versions of themselves – their mothers, their sisters, their daughters, etc. They need serious therapy because this is insanity.

    • Yaol

      April 13, 2012

      They may hate themselves, but that doesn’t give them the right to publically, consistenly, and shamelessly denigrate Black females, our individuality, femininity, and our humanity. They’re not goign to recognize they’re self hate though because that would mean having to identify personal shortcomings and faults in this context, and from my experience with these kind of Black men, that ain’t gonna happen.

  10. Diceyblog

    April 13, 2012

    If they’re thinking dumb stuff like this, I say “GOOD RIDDANCE and thanks for letting us know how you really feel.”

  11. Vee527

    April 14, 2012

    I agree 100% with your post. I often comment that I don’t hear any other genre of music that so disrespects Black women.(Hip-Hop) I once heard a White woman comment that they had our men because Black women are violent and lazy! That ish drives me crazy. Black men say they have it worst than any other minority group yet they (like the ones above) expect LOYALTY from Black women after bashing/disrespecting us.

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  13. MsG

    April 14, 2012

    Boys yes I said Boys, like young Berg and Slim Thug are just plain old dumb no wonder they are complete nobodys in the music business. Kevin Hart I’m not surprised he has issues and so does Lil Wayne. I don’t support anything Lil Wayne at all or anything Kevin Hart. As for Brian White, I wouldn’t say he’s a nobody but his movies are average along with his acting. Tyrese’s comment wasn’t too bad but then again I don’t think it was the whole thing.

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  15. Michael J. Hunt Jr.

    April 15, 2012

    I get it, but I don’t. Saying they “hate” this and that because of these comments almost as ignorant as the comments themselves. Women have every right to be upset and feel disrespected by the comments, but to say they hate you based off the comments you put up just isn’t logical. One, some of these comments are taken out of context. Two, a couple of these comments were jokes. Now if I come to a conclusion off of what someone says, but I have no idea why they said or who they are saying it to and for what reason that means I’m ignorant to fhe facts. If a comedian or just anybody makes a joke about black women that doesn’t make you racist. To finish, I will have to say that BBG you have a great point because there are a lot (only a couple on your list if that) of black entertainers that do hate on black women, I just wish the argument was presented better so that I didn’t have the questions I have or think that I need to go find why some of these statements were made because I feel like a lot was left out.

    To just sum it up…. great article and idea. I just wish it had more because I do believe you are right. Just wanted to see more factual stuff so I can show other people and they not look at me like its nonsense because I’m embellishing on things.

    P.S. I LOVE BLACK WOMEN! Love is seems like an understatement lol. Black women are the best thing God created and that will never change. So if a black woman reads my comment, whether you disagree or agree. I LOVE YOU! and yes its because you are black and a woman!

    • Bougie Black Girl

      April 15, 2012

      No other group of men make jokes that support colorism except for Black people. Colorism is evil and divides us. Those Black people who support it even in jest disrespect my ancestors. When you disrespect my Blackness you are not an ally. You are worse than any bigot or hate group. You are a traitorous to yourself and your race.

    • Bougie Black Girl

      April 15, 2012

      If you love Black women you will protect Black women and children. You will either stand with us or you are against us. There is no compromise regarding me protecting my identity.

    • Kay Mcleod

      April 30, 2012

      They hate black women. You are in denial. If black woman made those statement about dark men, it would definitely be called out.

  16. muzuru9

    April 15, 2012

    These men are lost, confused and disgusting. I’m a black African, and its things like these that make me Thank God that I’m not African American. How can a man abuse and be repulsed by the image of his mother? Superficial bastards think that skin tone has all to do with what’s inside one’s head. Oprah, Toni Morrison, Michelle Obama, Angela Walker are not light skinned, yet they’ve paved the way for countless black women and even men. Imagine lil wayne having a half-asian son just so he can have ‘good’ hair. I guess he must feel like dying when he touches his dreads. I’m sure their mixed kids must hate the black part of themselves, because their fathers are racist niggerstocks!

    • Amanueal

      July 7, 2012

      This is also a problem in Africa, and this coming from an Ethiopia. Stop acting like African are special type of black people who are not affected by white supremacy. I know many Africans who think the same way. If you don’t believe me, go to Nigeria and see how many bleach skin treatment there is and how many of them sell out in a week. You need to stop all this Anti-blackness.

  17. Dr.LCJ

    April 15, 2012

    Any Black Man who has a problem with “dark skinned” Black Women has a problem with me. I am beautifully, fearfully and wonderfully made. I am not ashamed of who I am and have become. I will not dummy myself down to accommodate anyone who has little to no standards for himself. I have fully embraced my womanhood, and no Black Man is going to play me, diss me, call me out of my name, he’s not doing or saying anything to make me look or feel less than a human being. Hell will surely freeze over first.

  18. Ombre

    April 15, 2012

  19. Peaceful Livin

    April 15, 2012

    I am sick and tired of reading the blogs and/or stories of how dark skinned women are ugly, lazy, violent, hoodrats etc. etc. as the reason our black men choose to date/marry/shack-up with only light-skinned or strictly white women or any other race but their own.
    Now I am not opposed to anyone dating whom ever their heart leads them too because we don’t choose whom we love our heart does. What I am saying is why place blame on your own kind and label us as non-worthy when the real issue is YOU are not comfortable in your own skin? Why should I carry your burden of self loathing?
    There is so much hate directed towards our race and yet we hate each other more than any other race.
    Every black woman is not lazy, on welfare, violent, baby momma etc. etc. Just as every black man is not a thug, deadbeat dad, in jail, out of work bum, woman beater, etc. etc. But, some celebrities and non-celebrities of color continuously label us as such.
    We seem to be the only race that bashes our own while our enemies aka other races sit back and laugh at our ignorance.
    Black men , you should know when you talk about your hate for dark skinned women/black and label us all as ugly inside and out you are shaming the woman who gave birth to you. Be it not for her you would not be here to complain about anything.
    I refuse to be pigeon holed by ignorance. I love and embrace my beautiful black skin but my skin is only just a taste of who I truly am and if you feel my skin is a deterrent of getting to know the real me then it is your loss and my gain.

    • Rach

      April 17, 2012

      Girl you go on with your bad self LOL!! Love your comment because I have often and will continue to say that weak black men sit up and because they can’t understand the reasoning behind that person standing in the mirror looking back at them with the decisions they make they blame us for their short comings.. The one thing people should take note of with the ones making comments is the life style in which they choose to live.. Rich thugs, duggies, bisexual, woman beaters and the list goes on..

    • Kay Mcleod

      April 30, 2012

      Yes. And women need to open their option. Travel and seek like-minded people to be around;health people.

  20. I am sick and tired of reading the blogs and/or stories of how dark skinned women are ugly, lazy, violent, hoodrats etc. etc. as the reason our black men choose to date/marry/shack-up with only light-skinned or strictly white women or any other race but their own.
    Now I am not opposed to anyone dating whom ever their heart leads them too because we don’t choose whom we love our heart does. What I am saying is why place blame on your own kind and label us as non-worthy when the real issue is YOU are not comfortable in your own skin? Why should I carry your burden of self loathing?
    There is so much hate directed towards our race and yet we hate each other more than any other race.
    Every black woman is not lazy, on welfare, violent, baby momma etc. etc. Just as every black man is not a thug, deadbeat dad, in jail, out of work bum, woman beater, etc. etc. But, some celebrities and non-celebrities of color continuously label us as such.
    We seem to be the only race that bashes our own while our enemies aka other races sit back and laugh at our ignorance.
    Black men , you should know when you talk about your hate for dark skinned women/black and label us all as ugly inside and out you are shaming the woman who gave birth to you. Be it not for her you would not be here to complain about anything.
    I refuse to be pigeon holed by ignorance. I love and embrace my beautiful black skin but my skin is only just a taste of who I truly am and if you feel my skin is a deterrent of getting to know the real me then it is your loss and my gain.

  21. Shahidah

    April 15, 2012

    Wow this was sad to read. Really I have no words. Sadness and anger are the only thing I can feel at the moment

  22. Tabby

    April 16, 2012

    added you to my blog roll. on point post sister

  23. Jaycee

    April 16, 2012

    I liked your article. I love Kevin Hart, and I’m dark skinned. I’m a little hurt that he feels this way. I’m not really surprised as much by the others, though. But Kevin, I always assumed if he said something negative, it was pretty much just jokes. idk. I’m gonna have to rethink how big of a fan I am. Thanks for posting this. If you want to hit me back, I’m at sexualtoppings.com.

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  25. blaksusita

    April 16, 2012

    So if black women were able to make their skin white and be the same women does that make her acceptable? Because how does skin color make you a different person? I thought it was a matter of your upbringing, rather you had two loving parents or one. Isn’t it a matter of how you feel about another person? Because I think every woman goes into her relationship with the utmost desire to love her partner truly & compassionately. If he gets sick or is sad or unhappy, she feels it too. So what these brothers are truly saying is that they prefer to be with a lighter/whiter skin woman because to THEM that is what’s beautiful in their eyes and that’s okay, because you can choose your preference whom you want to date or love. But to say you don’t date or could never love a dark skinned woman because she is negative or whatever is contradictory to state. What do you men of preference have to bring to the table for these other women. If you were poor, uneducated, criminal background etc..Could you still make these dispassionate claims? Most of these men seem to speak so condescendingly comfortable because of they have gained famed or fortune and feel as if this is what gives them right to state so profoundly on their discern for women of color. But lets not forget the words of one of Miami’s notorious black male rappers stated and is true to stand by today. Not matter what it is you gain in this world Black men you are and will always be “STILL A N*GGA” and nothing or no one can ever change that!

  26. von

    April 16, 2012

    Black women have every right to be angery at this rude comments those men made about them. However, us woman needs to stop stay in one place and allow the same type of end disrespect us and abuse us. This is 21th cen and nobody and nothing rarerly follows the old traditions. Mix racial dating/marriage is common now days. I think it doesn’t matters what color is a persons skin as long as we are happy with our man and they respect and loves us. We gonna learn to walk away from this haters who will only bring us down and find a real man who will accept and love us. Us woman just like men, we are not prefect and we surely can’t change any mans mind so why not change oursevel and walk away. I am pretty sure there will be more then one beautiful black man that will more then glad to take a black womans hand and love her. You just have to find it and leave rest of them haters alone. I am an Asian woman by the way and I refuse to date Asian man and I don’t see anything wrong with that. I loves a beautiful strong black man just like any beautiful strong black woman would. Keep ur head up!!

  27. Sudelicious

    April 16, 2012

    This post is so painful because it’s the truth. These celebrities are pathetic and do untold damage to the Black community. I love your blog. I write about similar themes but from a UK perspective. http://Www.blackwomanwhitedress.com feel free to have a look.

    Thanks

    Sudelicious

  28. tiredofthebillshit!

    April 17, 2012

    Sorry, I meant NOT loud and ghetto…

  29. Rach

    April 17, 2012

    I have really just had it with all the negative stereotypical behavior that is of the black men. The ones who go on to become someone with fame and fortune turn on their own kind because they are now to far from where they started to remember what it is they’ve went through and how we are all still overcoming the conspiracy that has been placed on the black race as a whole!!

    I have watched all runs of the Housewives. This includes Beverly Hills, Atlanta, New York, New Jersey, Orange county etc and they all pack drama. Look at Teresa from New Jersey Housewives!! She and her husband were living outside of their means much like Sharee has done for many episodes of Atlanta Housewives and their main claim to fame was the material goods that they had which is just like!! Look at Brandy on Beverly Hills Housewives and how she is nothing but a trashy sex crazyed disgusting tramp and carry’s herself like a whore!! Look at Kim who’s Kyles sister on Beverly Hills who is a drunk and a drug addict. Taylor Armstrong from Beverly Hills Housewives was getting her head beat in by her man in an abusive relation and every episode consisted of drama amongst the girls.. I mean Jersey Shore should be taken off the air because all those clowns do is drink, have sex with all sorts of random strangers and fight.. The point I am making is when Brian White said there aren’t enough positive black women on TV honey when you looking at reailty TV what do you expect.

    Hell Hollywood isn’t pouring out positive roles for black actresses now are they?? Taylor Perry movie do not just reflect on black women they reflect on the many mistakes black people in general make!! Was Dairy of a Mad Black Woman made to show that a black man will run to a white woman and leave a sister yet that white woman will run at the first sign of trouble!! The first thing the hussy he cheated on his wife with did when he got shot was run and take all his money.. Now if that ant a true statement I obviously don’t know any..

    For better of worse with Angela and Marcus now show cases him as a reformed man who supposedly isn’t cheating anymore but correct me if I am wrong. In the movie why did I get married Marcus was a washed up ex football player who took care of Tasha in the begining but as he fell and she began to rise was she or was she not taking care of him?? Paying all the bills pretty much??

    Women in general can be a trip. Hell Tigger Woods was married to a white woman so what’s his reason for cheating like he did. I mean after all being with a white women is all rainbows and roses right??

    Terrell Owens is another one!! Bless his pitiful soul. He stated to Kita that he didn’t see how she made into the contest in Miami because of all the other pretty girls (which playing or not was definitely a put down) but now that his money short how many blonde bombshells he got riding his train now?? Last time I saw him he was in Miami crying over his career ALONE!!

    I don’t want to get religious because some don’t follow but God is tired of all of this madness and at the end the fallen shall rise and the higher ups (or so you think you are) will crash and burn so BLACK WOMEN keep your heads up and continue to take care of your households and your kids.. God has something in store for you.. To the sell out porch monkey’s who down play us!! May the door knob hit you swiftly in the ass on your way out of our lives because being as week as you are we don’t need you anyway!!

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  31. Michelle Rivers

    April 19, 2012

    If I was a white women I would be offended about a blacks man attraction of you. Basically black men like that white women sit down and shut up, and play fetch when told to.

  32. CREE-EIGHT

    April 20, 2012

    I absolutely salute you.

    • Kushite Prince

      April 21, 2012

      These men are a disgrace Cree. You notice how they’re rewarded for disrespecting black women? They’re always there to do the bidding of massa. It makes me sick! Makes my stomach turn!

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  34. Kushite Prince

    April 21, 2012

    As a black man,I’m embarrassed! These negroes should be ashamed of themselves. A nation can only rise as high as it’s women. I wish these fools understood that. They are a disgrace to all black people world wide. No wonder other races laugh at us. No one respect a people who don’t honor their OWN mothers. These guys are nothing but self-hating,boot licking,negrophobic Coons!

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  37. Jay Laflare

    April 26, 2012

    Ok so tonight I get this article sent to my phone from a female friend of mine who wanted to know my take on this. I tried to respond on the train but it kept going through tunnels lol….so here goes. I am a 32 year old black male, who lives in Atlanta GA. I have to say that Black MEN and Black Women are enemies. We are no longer on the same team. I see it everyday, time and time again. Even some of these comments are just as hateful as the so called few black entertainers who made negative comments. See what many of you women fail to realize is a lot of black men are just as tired of you as you are of us. Where do you all think this hatred and animousity for black women comes from? Do you all think it was just born out of thin air? Do you all know how many black men feel and think like these few guys? What are ladies going to do? How can you ladies fix these problems between black women and men. Yes it falls on you black women it truly does. Sadly I will have to say black men are too stubborn to fix this problem. Many black men are very angry with black women because of how they leave black men at the finishline and taunt black men with their degrees and good jobs when many black men can not get them. I know many of you black women may say “well thats not my problem” Oh but it is…Many of you ladies keep bringing up the mother, sister, aunt argument as a way to make men feel guilty for not loving you. It does not matter the race of our mothers or sisters or aunts, we dont date or have sex with our mothers, sisters and aunts. Black women have to do what they do best that is LOVE. I feel it is time for not matter what a hurt black man says (these are black men in some form of pain) Black women need to co sign them. If you all continue you to fight with us and attack when we vent, the war and battle between black men and women will continue to go. All these men are doing is venting. they dont hate black women and to any foolish woman who feels that is just stupid. I think you all LET these white women take your men away from you, you all let white women out love and out care for black men than you do. Again I will say black men are far to stubborn to fix these issues. Only black women can fix it and until you all decide to start loving & caring for black men…like a woman should. Then these men will not to vent to the press about pains, stresses and frustrations they may have had to deal with. I know some typical angry black woman will attack my comments but I felt what I am saying needed to be said. Goodnite.

    • Kitty

      April 30, 2012

      Bwahahahaha… I’m sorry, you are joking right? Fix yourself, I’m not your mommy.

    • Rose

      April 30, 2012

      I had to get in on this one. Black men need to fix themselves, black women are not your mothers. You need allow Jesus to fix you. The black communities (black men, leaders, many fathers, abscent fathers) have failed to be role models. But it is not too late for you to start fixing things now. It is your God given responsibiliity as men created by God himself. Not the black women, for she can only fix herself. The women gives birth and feeds you, go to work,etc.,what more do you expect from her? You have been blessed with the physical strength and mind to protect the women and children by God himself. But too busy blaming the black women and white men because of your own self pity. Yes there is racism by whites (male and female) but at this point and time, many black men seem to be doing a good job of this same racism themselves to black women. I mean you all hate who you are. Use this negative energy in a positive way and not fight with women. Take your case before the black community and see how you can make a difference. Start on the basketball court, the gym,church, schools, parks, work, football field, in front of the TV watches the Lakers game, etc. where there are other black men. Encourage them to be men, to take care of your children, stay away from jail, be a hard worker, respect women and girls, mentor young boys, go to college, etc. Is this asking too much? Or is this too much to ask? For too stubborn? Get un- stubborn, yet another excuse. Men of other races do this and it comes naturally. Date whom you like but understand we black women will do the same. No one is fighting with you but it is the other way around. So there is no need to manipulate our minds here seriously. You are men act like men and carry your own weight and at the end of the day, you can carry the women. Should God have made you white with blue eyes and blond hair? It seems you are not happy in your skin. Do read your bible begining with Genesis. Btw if you feel guilty about us bringing up mother, sister, aunt argument then maybe you should feel guilty. Because this is all very real but you have a right to date whom you choose but don’t have the right to disrepect God’s creation (black women,girls) God help us.

    • L

      April 30, 2012

      Or Black women can continue to get their degrees and leave the Black community and Black men alone. Dude, the white women can have you and I say that with no animosity. Black women get your degrees and RUUUUNNNN! There is nothing to save or fix. Why would you even want to be in or fix anything with so called men like these. Do you all want to really live in a community with them? Newsflash…A lot of Black women are doing precisely that-getting their degrees and they are gone…These issues and what these so called men including Jay laflare have to say is of no concern to them AT ALL! Join these FREE Black women, Black women and you wont have to be hurt or even concern yourself with Black men….After all what is the big deal about Black men anyway? What do they do, own, control, what businesses do they have, what do they give Black women?.

      Black women, the reason why Black men show their asses to you all all the time is because BLACK WOMEN ARE THE ONLY GROUP OF PEOPLE WHO PAY ANY ATTENTION TO BLACK MEN. So walk away from them and free yourselves-then you wont have to even concern yourselves about supporting or not supporting. Get your degrees and RUUUUUUNNNNN! if you all have any self esteem and self respect that is. I would be alone forever than to deal with jay laflare and so many other Black men….Black women -You have so many choices being in America- in men, jobs, neighborhoods, who to support or not- USE THEM OR SHUT UP AND STOP COMPLAINING!

  38. Way Over It!!!

    April 30, 2012

    I have to reply after reading that reply from Jay LaFlare ; See ladies this is the “mule you” kind of behavior and mindset that I know all of us (bw) despise!!

    Absolutely WITHOUT A DOUBT it is NOT NOT NOT in anyway our responsibility to fix, cajole, coax or soothe any Black man.

    Black men take this as a promise – there are MANY MANY MANY MANY Quality Loving and Loveable men who are WHITE who love black women, WILL date us, WILL MARRY US and suprise suprise – have MARRIED US Black Women.

    And these WHITE men by all proportions make better husbands, providers, and will protect us BW from actions of lost beaten Black men like you Jay LaFlare.

    And take it from a Black woman who IS married to a wonderful white man…I never ever have to interact with men like you, my day is stress reduced, I live in a safe progressive neighborhood in a large Midwestern city….there are MANY couples like us and I for one black woman am glad I didnt listen and take in those messages of “lowered value” from black men like you.

    And to the black women who read this post – just don’t believe or read or patronize black men’s blogs, sites, movies, books ( from ideas stolen from others ), or the movies that erase us black women from history…etc!! You are all wonderful women who deserve to have love, protection and joy.

    Just keep it moving and date outside your race. There are far more men in the universe than this pitiful sampling of damaged creatures in this post.

  39. Way Over It!!!

    April 30, 2012

    And here is another thing; Let’s address this from a societal view point.

    Do you all not recognize that in a normal society – the men folk build up, protect and provide for and never abandon their wives, offsprings and homes.

    In a normal society this fosters strength, cooperation and the FUTURE of their own kind.

    So let’s review- here as Jay has so openly declared is the sentiment of MANY black men. His words ….

    .” See what many of you women fail to realize is a lot of black men are just as tired of you as you are of us. Where do you all think this hatred and animousity for black women comes from? Do you all think it was just born out of thin air? Do you all know how many black men feel and think like these few guys? What are ladies going to do? How can you ladies fix these problems between black women and men. Yes it falls on you black women it truly does. Sadly I will have to say black men are too stubborn to fix this problem. Many black men are very angry with black women because of how they leave black men at the finishline and taunt black men with their degrees and good jobs when many black men can not get them”

    Okay ladies, let me dissect this one. I am a law student so I am having fun with this man’s open full display of contempt and conquered mentality.

    First off – from Jay’s words – ..”what we women fail to recognize is that a lot of black men are just as tired of you as you are of us”. Okay this is the first glimpse of Jay’s admitted defeat. See Jay has been defeated by the hegemony of white men. He is yet another glaring example of bluff and hot air. He knows that he has devoted time to developing his mentality so as to be of BENEFIT to a Black woman. So, in his defeat he has now decided to pick up stones and throw them at the heads of women who look like him. This is an example of self hate. He joins in the chorus of other defeated Black men and sing the same ol’ song —see below.

    Second – The same old sing song of ” many black men are very angry with black women because of how they leave black men at the finishline and taunt black men with their degrees and good jobs when BLACK MEN CAN NOT get them”

    Ha ha. The famous ” who do you think you are black girl..going to school getting a degree moving on…I CANT GET one!! Are you kidding me. Unless I woke up in some other country than America and unless it is pre – 1965…there is not one school or university that I know of that says Blacks cannot attend. And yes, I am aware of institutional racism and the ol’boy network of legacies etc., etc..but in the overwhelming general nature of the US educational system , a black male can attend any where from a community college, to a university. Soooo that sing song whining of ” see black women got all the jobs and degrees” is just a lie. An excuse, and yet another arsenal in the damaged defeated beyond repair repertoire of a man like Jay.

    And for the record – I am soooo glad that this guy named Jay is serving as the voice of “everyday local black guy “. I appreciate FULLY the advance warning or should I say the confirmation of what I learned a long time ago – that it would be best that I take my educated head with dreams of being treated with love and respect and care and passion on across the color line where I knew instinctively that I would be fulfilled, protected and loved.

    Now on to my third and final point – The most intrinsic deeply imbedded okey doke – the MULE-ING talk. And allow me to explain this one. First and foremost this expousing that the BLACK woman is so called responsible for “fixing” this “problem” between Black men and women.

    When Jay said this I just smiled sweetly and recognized immediately this long held, well entrenched method of keeping BLACK women “muled”..i.e tied to a farming instrument pulling laboring in quick sand..the heavy work, the dirty work…the kind of work that puts callouses on your hand..the sweaty brow…the
    huffing the puffing the pulling…do I have to use any more metaphors???

    No.
    Because see the building of a society is to be done by the men folk of that society. The men folk, are supposed to do the chopping, the hauling, the building, the lifting, the toiling. That is NOT to be done by the women folk.

    That is because what has happened is that – the time that Black men should have been using to build, protect, provide for the society of women who looked like them…they decided that the power that they saw, knew and felt that white men have ( and still have ) they ( Black men) wanted it to. So what is the surest short cut to accquiring power…through the women of a society.

    A normal society/community rises and falls based upon how well the women and children are provided for. Without the women and children the society/community will never REPLICATE…ie grow.

    Back to this decision to take the short cut that Black men sought. The white female became the end all be all as access to power for the defeated and conquered Black males. In turn the white female became in the eyes of Black males like our spokeman Jay as the access to power.

    I dont think I need to lay out how intrinsically important power is to the male species. So I hope that all who read this can make their own logical connection.

    Now as it pertains to that detestable “muling effort” as spoken of by Jay – what woman would WANT to be shackled and tied to the monumental collossal behemoth weight of PULLING an ENTIRE SOCIETY up???

    What woman wants this??? No woman that I know of. That is because as a woman you are supposed to be free, lovely, praised, and put in a position of honor, love and fidelity. That is because in a normal society —and we are going back to the beginning of this discussion — the men folk protect, provide, care for, and builds up those who look like them, are a part of them and are the offsprings of them.

    Now that is what happens in a normal society. Is this what happens in the so called “community” of Blacks?

    I am sure we all know the answer to this question. Here is the smart savvy black woman’s answer : I am going to mingle, date and only marry and mate with ONE male from the collective society that has SHOWN that they protect, provide and care for ME!!!!!

    • Rose

      April 30, 2012

      Thank you! Thank you!

    • queensafira

      May 2, 2012

      Brava!!!! Yes, speak the truth and shame the devil. I am not and will never be anyone’s mule!

    • Love Me or Leave Me Alone

      May 2, 2012

      I logged in JUST to give cyber-applause to Way Over It’s comment. You nailed it!

  40. teamafro

    April 30, 2012

    VERY interesting debate! If you want to see a similar article from different perspective check out this one at AfroDaddy.com:

    The Media Brainwashing of Young Black America: http://afrodaddy.com/The-AfroBlog/media-brainwashing-young-black-america

  41. teamafro

    April 30, 2012

    VERY interesting debate and Bougie you are speaking truth. Here is a similar article from AfroDaddy.com
    The Media Brainwashing of Young Black America: http://afrodaddy.com/The-AfroBlog/media-brainwashing-young-black-america

  42. vford43

    April 30, 2012

    SISTA’S PLEASE STOP WORRYING ABOUT WHO BLACK MEN ARE MARRYING AND DATING. PLEASE STOP SUPPORTING THESE FOOLS. LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF AND LOVE WHO LOVES YOU! PLEASE, PLEASE, TRAVEL, ESPECIALLY INTERNATIONALLY. LET’S KEEP IT REAL, BLACK MEN ARE DONE.

    THINK ABOUT IT, WE HAVE A HALF BLACK PRESIDENT IN THE WHITE HOUSE, WHO DOES NOT EVEN DISCUSS OR HAVE A PLAN IN PLACE THAT FOCUSES ON THE STATE OF BLACK MEN: EXAMPLE: CRIME, GANG VIOLENCE, OVER CROWDING THE PRISON SYSTEM, DRUGS, AIDS/HIV/STD, UNEMPLOYMENT, POOR EDUCATION, MENTAL ILLNESS, ETC.

    BLACK MEN ARE ANGRY WITH BLACK WOMEN BECAUSE WE ARE PROGRESSING AT A HIGHER AND FASTER RATE GLOBALLY/INTERNATIONALLY (EDUCATION, BUSINESS, ETC.). WHAT IS HAPPENING IS THAT BLACK MEN ARE NO LONGER COMPATIBLE WITH BLACK WOMEN:) THAT’S WHY STEVE HARVEY FELT A NEED TO WRITE A BOOK AND PUT OUT A MOVIE “THINK LIKE A MAN.” TO TRY TO THROW SISTER OFF TRACK, MAKING US FEEL GUILTY FOR WANTING SOMETHING BETTER OF OUR MEN. WHY SHOULD WE ACCEPT JUST ANYTHING? OTHER NONBLACK WOMEN ARE NOT DISCOURAGED FROM WANTING BETTER MATES, WHY SHOULD WE.

    BLACK WOMEN HAVE BEEN THROUGH SO MUCH, SO LIVE LIFE FREE, FULFILL YOUR DESTINY THAT GOD HAS CHOSEN FOR YOU, AND DON’T LOOK BACK:)

    • Rose

      April 30, 2012

      Amen!

    • everclyde

      May 2, 2012

      Absolutely ridiculous.

    • 2deep4u

      November 21, 2012

      Well said!!! Loved the comment “OTHER NONBLACK WOMEN ARE NOT DISCOURAGED FROM WANTING BETTER MATES, WHY SHOULD WE.” And, feel free to read my post down below. Your opinions are welcome.

  43. Way Over It!!!

    April 30, 2012

    “He knows that he has devoted time to developing his mentality so as to be of BENEFIT to a Black woman”

    CORRECTION; Sorry for the typo. This sentence should read-

    “He knows that he has NOT devoted time to developing his mentality so as to be of BENEFIT to a Black woman.

    Way Over it!!!

    • Rose

      April 30, 2012

      I have to say I’m “way over it” as well.

      • Way Over It!!!

        April 30, 2012

        Thanks Rose!! This has been a great post at this young lady’s blog. Keep it movin’ has got to be our motto as black women. Reciprocity is a requirement in a relationship.

        And if anyone is not finding fulfillment and reciprocity in any kind of relationship, it’s common sense really to just move on.

        The key issue in this post is the sick demented hate espoused in those captioned comments in Bougie’s post.

        I have greatly enjoyed reading the post and all the worthwhile comments here!!

        Thanks again Rose!

      • Bougie Black Girl

        April 30, 2012

        Thank you so much for your support!!!!

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  45. My Dating Hangovers

    May 3, 2012

    There simply isn’t enough time for me to comment all that I really want to say, but two things I’ll say first- thank goodness I found your blog by way of subscribing to “Beyond Black and White” and second, I am absolutely disgusted over hearing about the attacks against black women, mainly by black men. In fact, reading this post has inspired me to go ahead and create a segment dedicated specifically to black women on my own blog.

    Okay- let this be read, forwarded, text, tweeted, BBM’d and told to any black man reading – we really don’t give a shi_ what nationality of woman you date, so get over yourselves. Whether it was from times of slavery, to Jim Crow days, serving overseas in the military, your relocating to Iowa or any other excuses mentioned that explains your attraction to anything BUT the likeness of your mothers, grandmothers, aunts and sisters, handle your business.

    What we do not need to hear are the bs reasons, hateful comments, rants and dismissive lyrics you baffoons continue to spew out of those pitiful minds of yours. As if we don’t already have enough to deal with, black women surely don’t need our own men tainting the minds of others, especially non-black men. Since we realize how much many discriminate against anything that doesn’t look mixed or I love this description – “exotic”, if our hair beads up instead of looking wet and wavy when stepping out of a swimmng pool, and the likelihood of having children together coming out looking…. BLACK, some of us would like to try our luck outside of this hatred-infested pool and swirl with other ethnicities.

    But guess what? Your negative images and descriptions of us aren’t exactly making us appealing to any man of another race because surely they’ll think “if their own kind doesn’t want them, they must really be screwed up”. With that being said, date and marry whoever you want but stop the slaughtering of our image.

    There, my rant is over. Sort of…

    The ignorance displayed by the likes of the Slim Thugs and the Lil Waynes of the world will live on, because there is always some woman out there who just doesn’t care.

    Ugh. Reading things like this make me sick. Literally.

    Thanks for sharing B&B, you’ve got a new follower here! :)

    • Rose

      June 18, 2012

      “Your negative images and descriptions of us aren’t exactly making us appealing to any man of another race….” You know, these black men are glad you stated that. This is their goal to keep you in bondage and for no one to want you. To smear, slander and disrespect you so nonblack will not want you. Call it cock blocking if you may. But it is just plain evil, how low they have gone with this. Besides self hatred of themselves and their I have arrived attitudes. I have to disagree with you on this statement though. Any man of another race if he is interested in a black women can figure all this out for himself. They know the real problem in the black community as we have stated they have failed as men and leaders, not black women. Move on ladies and for black men, keep moving and please there is no need to look back. Did God say you have to be with a black man for a relationship or marriage? Open your options up to nonbm. That is if you choose to, and want a qaulity,loving,lovable man. (Evia’s QLL)

    • 2deep4u

      November 21, 2012

      Loved your response. Loved the comment “…so get over yourselves.” Feel free to reply on my post down below…would love your opinions.

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    • Bougie Black Girl

      May 7, 2012

      That is what I do not get. This man child has repeatedly bashed Black women and yet Black women still support him. Smh!!

  47. Youngmind91

    June 18, 2012

    once again not surprised many blacks, especially entertainers, who are rich coon for the almighty dollar. But this article just proves how terrible the community is now. We were once close, died for each other, now we’re our own worst enemy.

  48. joanne

    June 19, 2012

    What the hell is going on in “Black America” ? Black people wake and truly smell the coffee, you are beginning to totally self destruct and the world is watching and laughing. From slavery to Jim Crow to proudly calling yourselves “African-Americans” other black people in the Caribbean, the U.K and the rest is closely watching while you people attack and use racism towards each other. I am so ashamed of all of you because you claim to be from the land of opportunity, yet you fight and pull each other down like crabs in a barrel.

    You allowed the white man to totally distort your thinking and now have the feeling that everything “white is right”. So many of you are just making kids with the other races so as to have “good hair” children not realizing that very soon blacks in America will be extinct !

    God help you guys, you need it. So far away from your African selves and knowing and loving who you are, it sickens me as a Afro-Caribbean woman to read these terrible stories. You will all self destruct„I give it about another 20 years and there will be no “black” people in America.

    • Tina

      September 25, 2012

      Sis, they are sick and delusional. The women and the men. Even though blacks have these same issues worldwide. American blacks area the worst. I am African American and it hurts my soul to see the demise of black love. It sickens me to see the bragging on how good the white man and woman are. Slave mentality af its best.

    • Adama

      October 16, 2012

      I’m gonna have to disagree with you here. I’ve heard your arguement before. This shaming tactic that black women and men are equally at fault for not supporting each other. Joanne, what you and others refuse to realize is that if black men refuse to make families with and marry black women then there is no black family and no (healthy) black community.

      What do you suggest? That while black men marry out, we should just sit home and nit? Are we suppose to take their insults? Their denigration of black women? It isn’t healthy to love or support a group that demeans you. And unfortanatley that means black men. If a non-black race were to hurl these insults to black women, you would consider black women insane to be fiercely loyal to them. So why should we take this from black men? We can’t force black men to marry us, to uplift us, or to support us. So it’s time to pull out and get out.

      I’ll quote a comment from “shecodes” from another blog on this issue:

      “It’s not the way that it was supposed to be. But it is the way it is.”

  49. nicholas

    June 27, 2012

    Hey, I don’t know how i got to this site but, I’ve got to say ( and this is coming from an Mixed race indian guy) I love black women.

    I grew up in south London amongst Jamaicans, Nigerians and West Indians. What I have noticed more and more is the way young black girls are wearing weave on there heads. The media is constantly showing black celebrities with blond straight hair.

    An afro is the natural state of a black womans hair, be proud of it.

    I didn’t know about the quotes made above, but they are truly sickening, and our kids look up to these people?

    Keep it up

  50. alliereel

    July 5, 2012

    First of all thank you for posting this blog. People must understand that these men obviously have a color complex going on. However you chose to cut the situation, Black men, you are apart of Black woman and vice versa. Without either of the two, we would not exist. We are the beginning and the end. Black folks need to realize that. There is nothing progressive or positive about a Black women or men belittling their counterparts. People, the color caste system, patriarchy, and white-love and privilege are very real and they play very major roles on the prospectives of these men, We all need guidance. The basis of truth is looking at who you are, what are you made of and how that relates/translates into the present world. Knowledge and recolonizing your mind is imperative. If this is not done, your race will die off and be a distance memory. I’m sure many people will say in respond to that, “Race does exist”, anyone who chooses to believe that, is ignorant and foolish, When a thing of that nature are said, it’s like saying slavery never happened and Black women and MEN weren’t used as commodities. You may know a little about that moment in time but what don’t know about your African-ness. Up until now, Africans/Blacks have upheld Western white patriarchal culture (Not completely by choice). You know, their responds are to be expected. When Black men or women say things like what those men said, they have just proven that slavery worked. Not only did it oppress a group of people within Antebellum times; that oppression and love for whiteness continues to live within their ancestors. Understand who you are and embrace your African-ness.

  51. alliereel

    July 5, 2012

    First of all thank you for posting this blog. People must understand that these men obviously have a color complex going on. However you chose to cut the situation, Black men, you are apart of Black woman and vice versa. Without either of the two, we would not exist. We are the beginning and the end. Black folks need to realize that. There is nothing progressive or positive about a Black women or men belittling their counterparts. People, the color caste system, patriarchy, and white-love and privilege are very real and they play very major roles on the prospectives of these men, We all need guidance. The basis of truth is looking at who you are, what are you made of and how that relates/translates into the present world. Knowledge and recolonizing your mind is imperative. If this is not done, your race will die off and be a distance memory. I’m sure many people will say in respond to that, “Race does exist”, anyone who chooses to believe that, is ignorant and foolish, When a thing of that nature are said, it’s like saying slavery never happened and Black women and MEN weren’t used as commodities. You may know a little about that moment in time but what don’t know about your African-ness. Up until now, Africans/Blacks have upheld Western white patriarchal culture (Not completely by choice). You know, their responds are to be expected. When Black men or women say things like what those men said, they have just proven that slavery worked. Not only did it oppress a group of people within Antebellum times; that oppression and love for whiteness continues to live within their ancestors. That oppression is not only soco-economical and material; but it has become transcend and psychological. Understand who you are and embrace your African-ness.

  52. twinkle

    July 6, 2012

    wow, shall I say brothers. we black women went thru enough. after all these yrs and we’re still being rape. well there are black women that are very successful. we are educated. we have knowledge of what we want in life. women like us are head strong and we wont fall for ppl like y’all. fame don’t make a person nor money. by reading what u guys hd said u all less then a man. all dark skinned women isn’t like that.yall. describe

  53. Kim

    July 6, 2012

    Best comment ever! LOL

  54. Proud Black Man

    July 6, 2012

    We all have a job to do to improve the condition of our people. Each individual must make a conscious effort to change the way he/she thinks, and behaves toward self, and then others. It is only then that things will be different, because like it or not we are all in this together.

  55. bigbraggaz

    July 7, 2012

    Kevin Hart’s tweets were in jest (he is a comedian), his wife and child are dark-skinned.

    • Bougie Black Girl

      July 7, 2012

      Which makes it much worse. When will it ever end? What if a white comedian made the same joke would you think it was in jest. Too many have been so brainwashed that they are willing to accept being treated like trash. No other group does this to their women.

  56. Richard

    July 9, 2012

    Any negro man that disrespects his women is of the slave mentality he suffers from internalized racism. He is less than a man, he is more of a mandingo slave object. Some black men are insecure, self- centered and suffering lack of identity. Real men of any color do not disgrace or deface their counterpart. I am a black man that is married to a wonderful, intelligent black woman. I have a daughter that I would not allow to date a negro man. Any man that would disrespect my daughter he will need a place to run and hide like the coward he would be. To all you negro men that disrespect our women you are a disgrace to other black men. We do not need to make up excuses about black women in order to date another race. You make it bad for other black men who want only a good black woman. Man up or shut up.

  57. NappturalDancer2K10

    July 10, 2012

    black women, we deserve better, so do worry about this color struck fools who are only good for nothing. If they are so quick to call their preferences for non black women, well, I’m doing the same! I’m prefer white, asian, hispanic, indian, & native american men. Why? Because they do it for me. Life is too short to worry about wanting only one particular race men. After all, I don’t need any man or woman’s permission to swirl, I’m already doing it!

  58. Suzy B

    July 10, 2012

    “I mean someone should send all these fags a memo and remind them that skinny jeans and leopard print aren’t something real men with balls worth squeezing would wear!!”

    Im having an issue with the word”fag” here and the fact this comment is purely an a personal attack. The issue being discussed was totally skirted around.

    • sexy mami

      September 24, 2012

      Don’t forget he kisses another man on his lips.hahaha

  59. Suzy B

    July 10, 2012

    Firstly the purpose of BWE websites, blog etc are to help black women realize their true worth and potential. Any one that makes the choice to speak negatively about black women is making the choice to do so, its not funny nor is “true” what people say. As Black women we need to widen our choices, that’s why there is an emphasis on dating outside our race, its clear to me that lots of black men are doing whatever they like so why can black women? What are we waiting for? We outpace black men in jobs, school , and income, look outside. You wont be doing it because you hate black men , but you will be doing it to exercise your options, black men have them, all other men have them but black women don’t? You can find quality men, and they dont have to be Black.

    Back to the topic of this blog, I will not support any person, black or otherwise that is going to disrespect any race, or class for people. I don’t support people that speak poorly about blacks, gays, women or any race of people. Rap music is off my mp3 player, rap videos sorry I don’t watch them, any reality tv don’t watch. You simply should not spend your money with people that are not appreciative of you. Its not funny in Kevin Harts case or is it keeping it real in the case of Slim Thug or Lil Wayne. Just because its black or white doesn’t make it right.

  60. realtalkshorty

    July 10, 2012

    Don’t forget to add Columbus Short to this list.

  61. Nicola

    July 17, 2012

    This article makes me so sad.I posted about this same thing on my facebook page a couple of weeks ago. They don’t hate black girls-THEY HATE THEMSELVES! That means they hate their mothers,sisters,aunts,nieces too. SELF HATE is a dangerous thing!

  62. I can’t believe that guy said it’s the black womans job to fix these black mens attitude towards us. He said it’s black womens job to LOVE. I’m a black woman and it is not my job to LOVE. It’s my job to be LOVED. and I am definitely not going to LOVE men who don’t love me. The white man that I date LOVES me and makes it easy for me to LOVE him.

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  64. geekybeautiful

    July 31, 2012

    spot fricking on.

  65. taylor

    August 7, 2012

    These guys are crazy. The good, beautiful black women that are smart and have their stuff together are cotched up with a nice white man that can appreciate what these fools can’t.

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  67. Mela

    August 14, 2012

    Wow. My friend sent me this article link and I am so glad. We have always said some of the same things. It’s a shame that more of us Black women can’t see and won’t see or refuse to see the truth or are just in denial. I’m really glad she stumbled upon your blog and wish more people would speak the truth like you. As a black woman myself, I Thank You and will definitely support your blog and come back to read more and more.

  68. vanester vereen

    August 18, 2012

    Hey black man you need to know that they don’t care about you either so care about yourself

  69. Kalilah

    September 12, 2012

    What happen to black power. Im black and Im proud.

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  71. sexy mami

    September 24, 2012

    Oyeah one more thing I don’t even listen to nun of these fools music an nor do I really give a damn about Kevin heart either so I don’t care they can keep these sale outs.

  72. Khalil Nasir

    October 12, 2012

    I think there are too many generalizations being made here. I agree with the premise that when these artists make disparaging remarks and disrespect our dark complected women that should not be supported. Your preference is your preference, and if you don’t have anything good to say about someone, don’t say anything. However, let’s face it, there is alot of work to be done by both Black men AND Black women. There happens to be alot of ignorance to go around, and it’s drowning out those of us who are respectful, educated, and positive. All anyone can hear are the negative shouts. And as a music industry veteran, I wouldn’t be surprised if these statements were made by these artists just to get a rise and keep their publicity up, unless they are just that ignorant. But anyone who can navigate a multimillion dollar career can’t be that ignorant. That may be the act, but it is often not the reality. Having said that, I’m not coming to the defense of the statements, which I was horrifed to read the snippets I did. Unless there’s some context that’s missing, I’m definitely not feeling that at all. On a personal note, I, as a Black man, have dated women of all races, as I have lived around the world, and I have to say that we as African Americans have the least respect for each other on both sides of the fence. That needs to change. As horrible as what these young men have said, I have not ever heard women being responsible in any way for this behavior. If Black women didn’t disrespect Black men, we’d see less of this. Everyone, especially Black MEN, would be all over the boy who dared disrespect a Black women. We all need to accept our part in what’s going on, if change is going to be made. We need solutions, not blame, for as long as we play the blame game, nothing gets done. the only thing that happens is more finger pointing, no responsibility. When we start seeking solutions, change can and must happen. And I think not purchasing music from artists who disrespect women is a good start for women. And men should stop supporting female artists who disrespect men no matter how hot they look. But all solutions start at home. Artists typically reflect society. They don’t create the problems, they just show us who we are. Let’s look at what WE do on a daily basis that disrespects the other gender, even ourselves, and start changing that. Just my two cents, or in this case, change for a dollar. LOL

    • Adama

      October 16, 2012

      Please stop. I’m really getting tired of black men deflecting and trying to say that black women and men are equally at fault. Stop the lies. You said black women disrepsect black men. In what way? What are you talking about??? Black women are doing everything they should be doing. Getting educated, pursuing careers, and –fruitlessly–waiting to find educated black men. But their aren’t many and the pool shrinks further thanks to black men that have no plans of marrying a black woman.

      I noticed how you dismissed colorism as just a “preference.” That fact that so many black men, including yourself, see nothing wrong in favoring light skinned women over dark proves that you aren’t as dedicated to fighting racism as you claim to be. Colorism IS racism. Black men (and perhaps you) refuse to examine yourselves. Why do you find light-skinned/biracial women more attractive than the dark skinned majority? Why the refusal to connect your “preference” with the overall racist hierarchy of white beauty from white supremacy? There is no shortage of stunningly gorgeous authentically-black females out there. “Authentically” black means dark skinned. Why? Not to disrespect light-skinned black women, but if you aren’t attracted to dark black women, if you find them LESS attractive than biracial women, then you really don’t value real black beauty. And this is the problem with black men. They devalue black women and our looks. Until black males like yourself condemn colorism for the racism that it is, you are still condoning the denigration of black women. Because we ARE dark-skinned.

      Black women rarely disrespect black men. As this article points out, black women worship black men so blindly that they support black men even when they disrespect us. And it’s time to stop. Black women aren’t doing anything. We can only focus on ourselves. If black men refuse to shape up and support US, then there’s nothing we can do for them. Stop spreading the blame.

      The problem is black men.

  73. 😥

    October 25, 2012

    My Dear Taryll Jackson ,Taj and Tj of the group 3T should be on this list. Taryll is abusive to black ladys ie Me :( and he only date Spanish or mixed ladys

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  75. oaccessjamaica

    October 31, 2012

    Thank you for bring this up yet again. When you are outspoken about this issue people are quick to say you got a chip on your shoulder. But this is real! Sad, True & Real.

  76. BlueCornMoon

    October 31, 2012

    This is the sad truth. I’m a teacher & have often had to read the riot act to some black boys for dissing black girls for saying they like light ones only, so & so wears fake hair, so & so is too black black, has nappy hair,etc. This seems to be a phenomenon that’s really gotten bad in the past 20+ years,esp since the days of the crack epidemic in the late 80s early 90s. That’s when rap came out with a lot of anti woman hate & black neighborhoods & overall behavior started to decline & self hate exploded. I do notice, tho, that a lot of these hater kids come from fatherless dysfunctional homes in bad neighborhoods,have no real male role models other than thugs, rappers & sports stars, & think manhood means bedding any woman in sight,fighting,carrying guns,& shooting people. The more middle class boys from 2 parent families or who have a single mom with a good support system , who seriously believe in education & the old school values that we had back in the civil rights days are not nearly as bad as this. These men mentioned here have seriously low self esteem & racial self hatred. Down deep they really believe white is better & that getting a white woman makes them more of a man. Also, white women don’t always see thru their phoniness like black women do & will often put up with mess black women wouldn’t deal with.
    There is,however another side & that’s the way some of our young women dress,act,& behave. My nephew , age 22, refuses to date most of the local black girls his age because he says they’re loudmouthed, foulmouthed, act ignorant in public & don’t know how to dress appropriately. I have to agree because I see them on the streets with nightmare weaves down past their butts, low rider
    shorts/jeans/skirts showing tattoos above their butt crack, push up bras under skimpy tops that make them look like hookers. I saw one with an uppercase tattoo across the top of her chest that said ” trust no nigga,fear no bitch”. Every other word is either mis pronounced or starts with “F”. Too many look & act like the ones on the Maury show. The black girls my nephew has dated are old school type girls like we were raised to be back in the 60s & 70s ” Don’t act in public like white folks think we are. Always put your best foot forward.” Nice boys don’t want these trashy loudmouthed ignorant acting girls & nice girls don’t want those ignorant gun toting woman hating thugs. To all you nice,decent young black women with some manners & education, if you can’t find good guys among our race,don’t be afraid to date outside your race. That’s what an old pal’s college age daughter did. Got sick of so many black guys being tail chasers & trifling & expanded her dating options. Now she’s engaged to a nice white guy & will marry next year.

    • 2deep4u

      November 21, 2012

      Very in-depth response. It is always a pleasure reading truth & wisdom. Feel free to read my response as well below (4th article down). I’d love to hear your opinion.

  77. Bree Nunez

    November 2, 2012

    I’d like to say,just because you watch a show does not mean you approve or act the way they do on the show..what if youre black and watch jersey shore? it doesnt mean anything because theyre not black? I agree with mainly everything on this site BUT the premise that if you get some entertainment from watching bbw or rhoa..that youre somehow approving or even confirming that this is the way black women are! but i will agree that black men seem to be the biggest bw haters..i personally dont base my relationships on race but have found that i am usually more compatable with white or latin or non-black men.I am a very ambitious person who feels that sometimes black men settle for less and are immature when it comes to handling business and other adult situations. but i was raised by an interracial couple(mom-black,stepdad-dominican) so maybe that has something to do with it.

  78. Bree Nunez

    November 2, 2012

    oh and as for my biological father, my mom left him when she was 21 with 3 kids after being kicked out by her mom, no help from family..she struggled for years all because she couldnt settle with him! her mind frame was ” lets save money and get a house so the kids can have somewhere to really call home. lets not throw away our money into an apartment in the hood. lets move to the suburbs” his response-” i dont wanna live around all those dam white people. a house is just more work. you want our kids to be bougie and think theyre white..listening to rock and shit?” its important to know my mom didnt tell us this when we were young fearing it would make us not like him.(which i dont.) but he confirmed these beliefs just the other day when visiting he said” this a nice house yall live in around all these dam whiteys. ill date some pink toes(his name for a white woman) but cant live in a neighborhood like this” my point is basically..why stay with these bm? leave!! even if you struggle alittle you’ll be successful in the end. if not for you, then do it for your kids! even your future kids!!

  79. Just Me

    November 3, 2012

    Black women need to stand firm in ourselves and stop allowing BM, Media, Peer Pressure force us into trying to be something else. We need to Stand Tall in Our God Given Splendor, I can’t wait for this weave obsession to end!

  80. 2deep4u

    November 3, 2012

    Point 1:
    Anyone notice it’s always YOUNG black males proudly announcing their love of white women?

    Where were all the wonderful white women after many famous black male entertainers & athletes fell from grace?

    Right off the bat I can recall Richard Pryor and Sammy Davis, Jr. In their prime, they chased white women…but when they became old & penniless, they lived their end days with a black woman taking care of them. And, the black women were rewarded by being left with NOTHING after these black male legends died.

    Point 2:
    I salute the strong black men out there who are secure enough with themselves to not have to put down a black woman to feel like more of a man.

    Insecure black men can’t pick on white men; and, they can’t pick on white women…and get away with it. So they reach for low-hanging fruit and do what even child-molesters and rapist count on…the ease of being able to pick on the weakest and/or most vulnerable in society…

    No one is going to lose sleep over black women being picked on or abused, so since this is all that’s left on the table, that’s what the insecure black men reach for to make themselves feel less inferior.

  81. dee

    December 2, 2012

    These men are worthless human beings. The only reason they get any ass at all is because they are rich. A lot of women from different races do not like black men because of skin color. They should be thankful they even get to f___ anyone. Anyhow, they themselves are black with kinky hair, instead of embracing what God has created they decide to perpetuate hatred towards their own people. Again, their own … dogs and other animals treat their own better. These men are not men.

  82. Skegee

    December 5, 2012

    So glad I’m married to a white man. Reading all of that garbage just made me throw up in my mouth a little bit- and I’m “light-skinned”.

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From Skin Color to Race Within The Hip Hop Context

http://hiphop3180.wordpress.com/2012/09/05/from-skin-color-to-race-within-the-hip-hop-context/

From Skin Color to Race Within The Hip Hop Context

There once came a time where race within our [African Americans] own community, was pretty dominant. Also coined Colorism by Alice Walker.

It’s all to common, especially in the African American community, known as the:

Brown skin vs Light skin debate, which has existed since times of slavery.

Many may ask “what does this have to do with Hip Hop,” but it has everything to do with it. Within alot of Hip Hop music, it is blatant that color is a factor. For example, a song by Lil Wayne entitled, “Right Above It,” where he states “Beautiful black woman, I bet that bitch look better red.” and many other celebrities who’ve stated similar things.

These are just a few blatant things that are/were said by AFRICAN AMERICAN male celebrities. And just when we thought that Dark skin vs Light skin was bad, it turns out that everything boils down to race. No longer is Dark skin and Light skin a dominate debate, it’s that rappers/celebrities prefer a “Yellowbone,” or a mixed female and disposing of African American women all together.

Example of this is in the lyric “I’m swimming in a yellow chick,” [Rick Ross, “John”] and many other lyrics and songs who obsess and praise “Yellowbones,” or mixed women more so than an African American woman. So does this that mean that African Americans, women in particular, are freed from this passing on to mixed raced women? No. Today we [African American women] are subjected by race and color daily whether it be by celebrities or average everyday human beings. So I guess the real question is, will it ever end?

5 Responses to “From Skin Color to Race Within The Hip Hop Context”

  1. jkaliss says : September 6, 2012 at 1:47 am

    I wish that I could say with all confidence that this dilemma will end but I cannot. I only hope that by educating ourselves as individuals and as humans we learn to appreciate all people and their various skin comlexions.

    Growing up in a home where my mother was very light skinned and my younger sister as well I was the “öutcast” when simply looking at that part of family (excluding my oldest sister who has a more caramel complexion). Many times people would see my youngest sister and me together with our mom and they would automatically assume my mom and youngest sister were mother and daughter but they would say nothing in reference to me. When I was younger I also dealt with teasing from young boys in school who would say: “what happend to you or why arent you and your sister the same color, she’s prettier than you”. I really took offense to this but as I got older I let it go knowing that some people just cannot get past skin complexion unfortunately. With this being said I have learned that people are very quick to judge and look you over simple based off your skin complexion then the race they assign you before actually asking you. People are quick to assume because you appear “mixed” you have to be and if you don’t qualify (being lighter or having an uncommon texture of hair for your complexion) you are only one and one thing. These assumptions and misjudgements lead to frustration for those who are targeted (such as myslef).

    Growing up with a supportive and loving mom I was told I was beautiful and that my skin complexion did not matter and as I grew up that helped me when the outside world told me otherwise. Through the media, especially areas focused on African Americans; hip hop, movies, music etc, this idea of lighter is better is maintained because we do not speak up when these comments or videos are produced as well as race our young women and men to respect and appreciate everyone no matter their compelxion (or race). I feel that though we are more aware of the issue there stil isn’t enoug uplift and encourgament of our youth to help change this idea.

    We need more ways to connect with your young people and let them know that beauty comes from the inside out and that what you look like is only part of who you are and everyoné’s skin color is beautiful. Skin compelxions create a mosiac of color and we were not here to be all the same hence the reason we are all different! :)

    Great post!

  2. corigoins says : September 6, 2012 at 2:10 am

    This is an awesome post! Its so sad to read those disrespectful comments- especially coming from black men. Seeing all of the racist things they said about dark skin women makes me view those rappers as being hypocrites. You can’t complain about racism when you’re racist against your own people. Its not like we chose what complexion we wanted, we were just born with it. I wish people would understand that. People are people, regardless of skin color. The issue of racism in this country is not going to get any better if we’re condoning it and practicing it as well.

  3. lblackm3 says : September 6, 2012 at 10:09 pm

    Adreann I must agree with your post. The difference in complexions is a very intense and sensitive subject in the African American community and the harsh realities are re enforced daily often in hip hop music. It’s quite interesting to hear how people that are bred from some of the same types of people to be so judging of skin color when in fact these same colors exist within their own families. I also find it interesting that people would want to change their outer appearance to fit the liking and acceptance of others. That to me is very painful. In my opinion we should be happy we stem from such an array of people. How many other racial groups can say they come in many shades? *crickets* NO ONE. To me the many different types of people and complexions make our culture so unique and I’m very proud to be apart of it. By the way Good topic.

  4. morowak says : September 7, 2012 at 1:51 am

    WOW!!!! That was a great post yet a little disturbing. Of course we know that this battle is out there but don’t like to address it. I have never experienced this personally, but have heard it several time. Unfortunately, I must say I’m guilty of making these same comments. There were never as harsh or negative, but I have always dated guys that were a lighter complexion. However, my boyfriend now is dark skinned. I think I was just so caught up in the idea of what people would say or think. Also I was consumed with peer pressure and fitting in. I am not trying to dilute my actions but I do honestly believe it was more of a preference than a prejudice. In regards to the post those comments are just pure ignorant and disgusting. They believe that light skinned girls are better and easier to deal with. Those comment are just like a white person saying “white is right” it is no different. Where did you get that post from?

    • amarsh9 says : September 7, 2012 at 2:51 am

      that is wild.
      i found the post [the one of the male celebrities] when i was going through my Tumblr one day, and found it disturbing as well.